My previous post, How to make a blogger notice you had some really good comments that I learned from. And it sparked off a few thoughts.
Success is about attitude, not about technique.
Which is why reading a bunch of business books will not make you a great business man, but adopting the correct attitude might.
This applies to the world of online marketing and even blogging. It took me years to understand how to be a successful blogger. I thought it was all about the tricks and the shortcuts. I realised that blogging is about talking, about conversation. It’s about developing a way to speak in your own voice. Sure there are lots of technical things you need to learn like RSS, trackbacks, headline writing etc. But all those can be learned. If you have not developed the right attitude, the right posture. All the techniques in the world will not help.
It’s the same with networking. If you think you simply need to read a few posts, learn where to go, what auto friending software to use, then your motives will be obvious and you will not be offering anything of worth.
Adopting the right attitude makes it so easy. You end up not having to think about only doing things that turn to your advantage. You do things because it is part of who you are and this is how you will be perceived.
A martial arts expert will tell you it’s not about the punch, it’s about how your whole body and mind deliver the punch.
I don’t think online networking can be faked, I see it all the time in people who are success. They show signs of
- Generosity
- Passion
- Helpfulness
- Humility
- Modesty
- Curiosity
- Focus
This is not a step by step guide on “how to network online”, rather I see it as a checkmark to see if someone has the right attitude. There are a number of people I could list, you probably know the people I speak of.
These are not things you can adopt like putting on a pair of socks. They only come when you have the right attitude.
So how do you adopt the right attitude?
I know, but I don’t know how to explain it, when I do I will write part two.
But first, I need a Hobnob.